September 10, 2014 Leave a comment
Reposted from one of Rock Your Life’s global sages, Rik Schnabel. Find his blog at http://www.lifebeyondlimits.com.au/blog/)
A good friend of mine recently had a career dilemma. They didn’t like what they were doing for a job, but didn’t know what to do next. Have you ever felt that way?
The questions we ask ourselves can literally transform our lives, so I asked, what are you asking yourself about this issue. Their answer? “Why have I never been able to find a job I love?”
We’ve got to be careful when we ask ourselves “why” questions as our unconscious will obediently answer them. Her answer was (you guessed it) – “Because I have to work to pay my mortgage” and her other answer, “Because I just don’t know what I really want!” So I asked her this question.
If you secretly knew what work (career might be too strong a word at this early stage) would make you happy; what would it look like, sound like or feel like?
Her answer didn’t surprise me because she loves helping people. She’s a natural problem solver. She’s a caring and nurturing person and the one that everyone seems to come to whenever there are issues to be resolved. She said, “I would love to do what you do (Life Coaching).” So I asked, “What’s stopping you?” and out came her bullet point lists and reasons why she thought she couldn’t become a Life Coach. She was overthinking the issue until it became a big problem and her overthinking had her believing she was doing something about her issue and stopped her from ever doing anything about it.
I said, “What if I could show you how you could learn how to become a Life Coach and keep your job and income until your Life Coach income matched or rose way above your current income – would you do it?“
Her answer, simply – “Yes!” Problem gone.
Sometimes we over think our problems, otherwise known as hurdles to our progress. Overthinking when it leads to taking no action, is procrastination in disguise. While our thoughts around our issues might sound intelligent, it’s often far from it. Dogs and Cats rarely die from stress related illness – I think it’s because when they want to do something, they rarely think about it – they just do it!
Go ahead, just do the thing you know you must do and ask yourself better questions…
PS: If you’re like my friend and would like to learn how to become a Life Coach – here’s the link to get the conversation started – http://www.lifebeyondlimits.com.au/nlp-training/life-coach-training.html